You have to be living under a rock not to notice the couple that many women admire. Russell Wilson who is the star QB for the Seattle Seahawks and his lovely wife Ciara who is an R&B artist, as well as an amazing dancer. Most people know especially in the black community and urban culture are aware of the back story with Ciara's ex the rapper Future and their tumultous relationship along with their son that came as a result of that relationship. Future was well known for getting around and had quite a few women at his disposal and you can figure the rest. Ciara in the past admitted that relationship had a toxic effect on her but fought through it and tried something Different!
Russell Wilson steps on the scence polar opposite of Future, had his own financial wealth but more importantly his personality and character was different. This is not to say he was perfect because no man or woman is, but he showed her a different side of what a man is. Attributes like integrity, respect, compassion, admiration, just to name a few. Any woman besides Ciara would be receptive to that after dealing with toxicity of cheating, emotional abuse, among other things. That decision she made to try something different well has changed her life and his life as well.
The deal with women and men nowadays is that many want that type of relationship but not many are willing to let go of mental and emotional baggage from previous relationships. Everyone has different expectations of what they want in a mate, and that's ok as long as it is realistic. Let me break this down for you. Man makes money, money don't make a man, it is a resource that we work and build for. Nothing is wrong if a woman desires a rich man financially, but if his morals are bankrupt, as a woman you are in a piss poor situation. A nice butt and breasts are desirable for most men, I can speak for myself something I like, but that is a physical attribute of a woman, it doesn't define a woman. So as a man you can have a woman with a banging body but as time passes that figure that was lifted is going to drop and what her heart and attitude is like is going to matter most.
Moral of the story is be willing to let go of toxic baggage from your past, no matter if it is someone you share a child with, ex spouse, or whomever it may be. Be open to embrace something different because it just might change your future!
The bible says in Proverbs 20:6, "Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love, but a faithful man who can find?"
Poetic Thought:
What is love, what is lust,
You need oxygen to breathe, a relationship needs trust,
Unrealistic expectations keeps your heart camouflage,
When presented with organic, you addicted to artificial, so you self sabotage,
The time comes to relinquish the old, embrace the blessing of something new,
Everyone has imperfections, be careful not to miss out on someone that is true! ~ JD
There is a song out by a very talented and beautiful R&B artist by the name of HER, the song is entitled "Damage". The song is definitely bumping but there is a particular verse that stands out the most:
"Not worried about it, I'm putting pressure
You only cut me if I let you
No, he ain't the one, it's just for pleasure
Either learn me or I'm a lesson gone"
Those lyrics were deep and no matter who you are woman or man be careful so you won't be damage!
Always love GOD, love yourself, and let nothing or no one define you. The best is yet to come! Until next time class dismiss!!!
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