There comes a time in our lives as men and women there is something we have to let go. Letting go could be a relationship, a business, a friendship, or even self habits that are not beneficial. Whether by choice or not, letting go can be difficult especially if its something you like, someone you love, or just your comfort zone pertaining to your career or way of living.
It's human nature to resist change sometimes and come to grips with letting go of something that you want but may not be in the will of God for your life. It can become a strain on a person's emotions, decisions, and overall behavior.
I've come to learn in this life that everything I want or desire may not always be what God has for my life. As a man sometimes this can be hard to accept. I realize being driven to be successful, love someone from your heart the best you can, being strong for your family can be overwhelming and allow you to be reluctant to relinquish that thing you familiar and comfortable with.
It's all a part of the process in this journey of life we all at some point have to go through.
In the bible the words says in Philippians 4:7, "And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Poetic Thought:
Time is of essence,
Absence of peace, allows chaos to be present,
Faith is the antedote for fear,
It may be raining but the sun will eventually appear,
To reap a harvest, love you must sow,
God has greater for you in exchange for letting go! ~ JD
I'm a big fan of the tv drama Chicago Fire that comes on NBC. It shows the daily lives of fire fighters and paramedics as they save lives from burning buildings and other catastrophic incidents.
One particular episode a fireman on the rescue squad was trying to save a man trapped in his car hanging over the ledge of a parking garage 3 stories high. The victim had to let go of the steering wheel and grab hold of the fireman hand in order to be pulled to safety before the vehicle went over the ledge. In this case letting go saved someone's life.
This month marks two years since I started this blog and I thank everyone who takes time out of their day to read it. My hope is that it encourages you and inspires you. Thank you sincerely! Until next time, class dismiss!!!
Tuesday, March 24, 2015
Friday, February 6, 2015
WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE?
Well it is the month of February and officially eight days from Valentines Day February 14th. This holiday is a celebration of love between couples married, engaged, or dating.
Many gifts are purchased at this time, especially chocolate, flowers, jewelry, and lingerie just to name a few. Of course not everyone is in a relationship, some people are single be it by choice or break up.
If you are reading this and in a relationship than your expression of love should reflect everyday besides Valentine's day.
For anyone who has ever been in a grown and mature relationship knows that it takes work.
You have two individuals a man and a woman unique in their own way coming together to form a bond. Many differences and similarities to mesh together. Her needs, his needs, her desires, his desires and so forth.
Love is at the core of any relationship but there also has to be respect, trust, communication, and committment in order to sustain a healthy relationship. Sometimes selfishness, insecurity, dishonesty, among many other things can be like a virus that infects a relationship causing strain and even heartache.
I have been in good and bad relationships in my life. There have been times I contributed to the turmoil in the relationship and other times it was the lady in my life. What experience has taught me is you can't change no one but yourself. Should you attempt otherwise it will be like beating your head against a brick wall and you have no right to complain about the headache!
Be prepared to love someone that is not flawless because neither are you. Before every kiss begins with KAY you must put in the work today! :-)
The bible says in Matthew 19:5, "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."
Poetic Thought:
A bird in the hand beats two in the bush,
The labor of love will birth a blessing, you got to push,
In the purest form make love not lust,
The relationship garden cannot grow, must fertilize it with trust,
Be courageous, open your heart, to overcome committment fear,
How can two walk together, unless they agree, Where do we go from here? ~ JD
There is an ole school song by Stacy Lattisaw and Johnny Gill called "Where do we go from here".
I listen to this song in my truck frequently because I like ole school R&B but also the significance of the song. The synopsis of the song is about a man and a woman in a relationship that came to a crossroad and not sure if they should walk away or keep trying to make it work. Powerful song! At some point in life we all have had to ask this of ourselves and our significant other Where do we go from here? Until next time, class dismiss!!!
Many gifts are purchased at this time, especially chocolate, flowers, jewelry, and lingerie just to name a few. Of course not everyone is in a relationship, some people are single be it by choice or break up.
If you are reading this and in a relationship than your expression of love should reflect everyday besides Valentine's day.
For anyone who has ever been in a grown and mature relationship knows that it takes work.
You have two individuals a man and a woman unique in their own way coming together to form a bond. Many differences and similarities to mesh together. Her needs, his needs, her desires, his desires and so forth.
Love is at the core of any relationship but there also has to be respect, trust, communication, and committment in order to sustain a healthy relationship. Sometimes selfishness, insecurity, dishonesty, among many other things can be like a virus that infects a relationship causing strain and even heartache.
I have been in good and bad relationships in my life. There have been times I contributed to the turmoil in the relationship and other times it was the lady in my life. What experience has taught me is you can't change no one but yourself. Should you attempt otherwise it will be like beating your head against a brick wall and you have no right to complain about the headache!
Be prepared to love someone that is not flawless because neither are you. Before every kiss begins with KAY you must put in the work today! :-)
The bible says in Matthew 19:5, "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."
Poetic Thought:
A bird in the hand beats two in the bush,
The labor of love will birth a blessing, you got to push,
In the purest form make love not lust,
The relationship garden cannot grow, must fertilize it with trust,
Be courageous, open your heart, to overcome committment fear,
How can two walk together, unless they agree, Where do we go from here? ~ JD
There is an ole school song by Stacy Lattisaw and Johnny Gill called "Where do we go from here".
I listen to this song in my truck frequently because I like ole school R&B but also the significance of the song. The synopsis of the song is about a man and a woman in a relationship that came to a crossroad and not sure if they should walk away or keep trying to make it work. Powerful song! At some point in life we all have had to ask this of ourselves and our significant other Where do we go from here? Until next time, class dismiss!!!
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
DOMESTIC WAR
There is a war going on here in the United States of America. I'm not talking in reference to the war on terror in the sense of foreigners dropping bombs or beheading people. That is happening and a travesty but I'm speaking about all the domestic violence here at home. In the news headlines another young brother NFL player is exposed in a video for punching his wife and knocking her unconscious. Another high profile NFL player is being indicted on child abuse charges against his four year old son. Locally here in Memphis, Tennessee where I reside, a husband killed his wife then himself, and a week later a firefighter killed his girlfriend. There also was a group of teenagers forming a hit mob going to the local grocery store and beating up and assaulting innocent people. As if that wasn't enough last month in August in Ferguson, Missouri an unarmed black male teenager was killed in cold blood by a police officer. This has seem to become a trend since the volatile case in 2012 of Trayvon Martin and George Zimmerman in the state of Florida.
All of this senseless violence is at epidemic proportions right now. There is so much hate consuming the hearts of men and women today.
Insecurities, betrayal, lack of trust, prejudice, along with other suppressed issues contribute to the behavior that is being exemplified in our society. Our culture is becoming desensitized to the horrific acts of violence happening to women, children, and people in general.
It doesn't matter if the offender is a professional athlete, officer of the law, husband, father, mother, or teenager it is wrong all the way around to carry out such acts of violence. It has got to stop!!!
The bible says in Matthew 11:12, "From the days of John the Baptist until the kingdom of heaven has suffered violence, and the violent take it by force."
Poetic Thought:
Sticks and stones do break bones,
The heart of a man is no longer right but left to go wrong,
Anger brings destruction like a consuming fire,
Integrity is low while immorality has risen higher,
Evil is a cancerous tumor manifested in the mind's core,
We wrestle against spiritual wickedness in this daily domestic war! ~JD
There is a movie I saw a year ago called The Purge. Since then the sequel The Purge Anarchy came out in July of this year. I saw both movies. The basis of the movies is a new age America where for one day in March for a period of 12 hours acts of violence is legal to commit including murder and people wouldn't be held accountable for their actions. The movie is intriguing but subliminally it sends a message of where our society could be heading. We must turn back to God and educate ourselves on conflict resolution instead of resorting to violence as a means to solve disputes or problems we all face. Pick up your cross and get on the battlefield to defeat the enemy in this domestic war! Until next time, class dismiss!!!
All of this senseless violence is at epidemic proportions right now. There is so much hate consuming the hearts of men and women today.
Insecurities, betrayal, lack of trust, prejudice, along with other suppressed issues contribute to the behavior that is being exemplified in our society. Our culture is becoming desensitized to the horrific acts of violence happening to women, children, and people in general.
It doesn't matter if the offender is a professional athlete, officer of the law, husband, father, mother, or teenager it is wrong all the way around to carry out such acts of violence. It has got to stop!!!
The bible says in Matthew 11:12, "From the days of John the Baptist until the kingdom of heaven has suffered violence, and the violent take it by force."
Poetic Thought:
Sticks and stones do break bones,
The heart of a man is no longer right but left to go wrong,
Anger brings destruction like a consuming fire,
Integrity is low while immorality has risen higher,
Evil is a cancerous tumor manifested in the mind's core,
We wrestle against spiritual wickedness in this daily domestic war! ~JD
There is a movie I saw a year ago called The Purge. Since then the sequel The Purge Anarchy came out in July of this year. I saw both movies. The basis of the movies is a new age America where for one day in March for a period of 12 hours acts of violence is legal to commit including murder and people wouldn't be held accountable for their actions. The movie is intriguing but subliminally it sends a message of where our society could be heading. We must turn back to God and educate ourselves on conflict resolution instead of resorting to violence as a means to solve disputes or problems we all face. Pick up your cross and get on the battlefield to defeat the enemy in this domestic war! Until next time, class dismiss!!!
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
LIFE'S LABOR
Well we are coming off another Labor Day holiday. It is a time of reflection for the American worker be it blue collar or white collar. In order to produce anything or achieve something labor is required.
In life as a man or woman you will have to labor in order to have a better quality of life. If you are a parent you labor to provide for your children. If you are an entrepreneur you labor to ensure a successful business. If you are a mother you spent numerous of hours in labor to birth your child. With respect to reference of a mother in labor during the process of child birth, is similar to what you go through in life. The pains of life's labor come hard, sharp, and like a contraction it seems every few minutes literally and figuratively.
Now I am a man and I could never know what it actually feels like to be in labor to give birth like a woman, but I do know about life's labor.
Here are a few examples of labor pains in life: family disconnect (contraction), heartache (contraction), sickness (contraction), sin (contraction) along with many more. No man or woman is exempt from experiencing life's labor. If you endure the discomfort and pain by putting Jesus Christ first in your life then you will eventually birth a blessing like a mother does her child.
The bible says in Psalms 128:2, "You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours."
Poetic Thought:
The battlefield of the mind is fought everyday,
Stay parallel, your actions must line up with what you say,
Going through the basic training of life,
No matter the odds, be courageous, earn your stripes,
Be encouraged, embrace the Lord's favor,
Impact someone positively, reap the fruit of Life's Labor! ~ JD
There is a gospel song I love to listen to by William Murphy called "Its Working". This song invigorates my spirit and motivates my determination and drive to know that no matter what Grace and Favor is given to me by God. Here is the hook:
"This is my season for grace and for favor,
This is my season to reap what I've sown,
Everything is working together for my good"
Remember this when life's labor seems unbearable, know that God has something for you on the other side of it. Until next time, class dismiss!!!
In life as a man or woman you will have to labor in order to have a better quality of life. If you are a parent you labor to provide for your children. If you are an entrepreneur you labor to ensure a successful business. If you are a mother you spent numerous of hours in labor to birth your child. With respect to reference of a mother in labor during the process of child birth, is similar to what you go through in life. The pains of life's labor come hard, sharp, and like a contraction it seems every few minutes literally and figuratively.
Now I am a man and I could never know what it actually feels like to be in labor to give birth like a woman, but I do know about life's labor.
Here are a few examples of labor pains in life: family disconnect (contraction), heartache (contraction), sickness (contraction), sin (contraction) along with many more. No man or woman is exempt from experiencing life's labor. If you endure the discomfort and pain by putting Jesus Christ first in your life then you will eventually birth a blessing like a mother does her child.
The bible says in Psalms 128:2, "You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours."
Poetic Thought:
The battlefield of the mind is fought everyday,
Stay parallel, your actions must line up with what you say,
Going through the basic training of life,
No matter the odds, be courageous, earn your stripes,
Be encouraged, embrace the Lord's favor,
Impact someone positively, reap the fruit of Life's Labor! ~ JD
There is a gospel song I love to listen to by William Murphy called "Its Working". This song invigorates my spirit and motivates my determination and drive to know that no matter what Grace and Favor is given to me by God. Here is the hook:
"This is my season for grace and for favor,
This is my season to reap what I've sown,
Everything is working together for my good"
Remember this when life's labor seems unbearable, know that God has something for you on the other side of it. Until next time, class dismiss!!!
Thursday, August 14, 2014
HEART ATTACK
Today many people are suffering from heart attacks. I'm not speaking the heart attack in the physical sense where your internal organ goes into cardiac arrest. I'm speaking about the heart that has the artery of your emotions flowing through it.
Many factors can attribute to you having a heart attack. Some examples would be a disappointment or failure in something you are pursuing, a bad break up in a relationship with someone you love, or a disconnect with your family.
In the past and present I have experienced all three. The only way to persevere through it is giving it to GOD. Let's be real you might know this and can speak it all day to someone else but when it is you going through it is easier said than done. Emotions of hurt, anger, frustration can be like hot coals scorching you. As a man or woman in this journey of life you will surely experience adversity, setbacks, and heartache. Like the popular saying "What don't kill you makes you stronger."
Another important thing is to take a self assessment of yourself and the things you may have done to contribute to your heart attack. Things you could have done better, mistakes that could have been avoided or not repeated, procrastinating instead of progressing forward.
Like with your physical heart you must get exercise, eat right, and take vitamins so it may function properly and not be high in cholesterol. You must do the same for your emotional heart in order for it to function properly. Exercise love, feed it the word of GOD, take Vitamin A (Acceptance), Vitamin C (Compassion), Vitamin D (Discipline). At some point alot of us have been deficient in our heart regiment, I know I have and can tell when the emotional cholesterol in my heart is high.
The bible says in Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."
Poetic Thought:
Life is a rollercoaster going up and down,
Sometimes you have to smile through an obvious frown,
Love is suppose to be nourished not starved,
Any conflict unresolved can leave scars,
Seek what is good in abundance not lack,
GOD is the specialist and will heal your heart attack! ~ JD
There is a gospel song that I love to listen to by Dewayne Woods called "Let Go".
This song is personal to me because I can feel it in my spirit and how it applies to my life. Here are some lyrics from the song that stands out:
"There is so much going on,
Sometimes I can't find my way,
And often times I struggle,
Struggle from day to day"
"As soon as I stop worrying,
Worrying how the story ends,
I let go and I let God
Let God have his way"
Those are some powerful words! For anyone reading this blog and going through anything that troubles your heart, just know to give it over to GOD and he will allow it all to work out for your good. It may not seem like it at first, believe me I know, but just understand his timing is not our timing but he is always right on time! GOD bless you! Until next time, class dismiss!
Many factors can attribute to you having a heart attack. Some examples would be a disappointment or failure in something you are pursuing, a bad break up in a relationship with someone you love, or a disconnect with your family.
In the past and present I have experienced all three. The only way to persevere through it is giving it to GOD. Let's be real you might know this and can speak it all day to someone else but when it is you going through it is easier said than done. Emotions of hurt, anger, frustration can be like hot coals scorching you. As a man or woman in this journey of life you will surely experience adversity, setbacks, and heartache. Like the popular saying "What don't kill you makes you stronger."
Another important thing is to take a self assessment of yourself and the things you may have done to contribute to your heart attack. Things you could have done better, mistakes that could have been avoided or not repeated, procrastinating instead of progressing forward.
Like with your physical heart you must get exercise, eat right, and take vitamins so it may function properly and not be high in cholesterol. You must do the same for your emotional heart in order for it to function properly. Exercise love, feed it the word of GOD, take Vitamin A (Acceptance), Vitamin C (Compassion), Vitamin D (Discipline). At some point alot of us have been deficient in our heart regiment, I know I have and can tell when the emotional cholesterol in my heart is high.
The bible says in Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds."
Poetic Thought:
Life is a rollercoaster going up and down,
Sometimes you have to smile through an obvious frown,
Love is suppose to be nourished not starved,
Any conflict unresolved can leave scars,
Seek what is good in abundance not lack,
GOD is the specialist and will heal your heart attack! ~ JD
There is a gospel song that I love to listen to by Dewayne Woods called "Let Go".
This song is personal to me because I can feel it in my spirit and how it applies to my life. Here are some lyrics from the song that stands out:
"There is so much going on,
Sometimes I can't find my way,
And often times I struggle,
Struggle from day to day"
"As soon as I stop worrying,
Worrying how the story ends,
I let go and I let God
Let God have his way"
Those are some powerful words! For anyone reading this blog and going through anything that troubles your heart, just know to give it over to GOD and he will allow it all to work out for your good. It may not seem like it at first, believe me I know, but just understand his timing is not our timing but he is always right on time! GOD bless you! Until next time, class dismiss!
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
SEX SEASON II
It's that time of year again. The weather has gotten warmer with spring here on the verge of summer. A year ago on this blog I talked about sex season. The examples of more revealing clothes, men displaying their physiques from putting time in the gym, women showing off their coke bottle plus figures from doing the same. Don't get it twisted sex stays in the air 24/7/365 but this particular time of year as summer approaches hormones are wild like Pac-Man. Like I stated before sex is a great thing created by God but like with anything man has tainted it to fit our own desires and agenda..
No longer is it sacred between a man and woman or husband and wife, but to whomever chooses and to whoever they choose it with, regardless of age or gender.
Sex is a free will choice whether it's in the confinement of marriage or an adult engaging in it outside of marriage. Lets be honest sex feels good, men we like it and women like it too. Some people desire for sex is higher than the next individual, and there is nothing wrong with either person. A high libido shouldn't mean a low morality when it comes to sex. An example of this would be porn. A well known reality star off a show that I watch decided to do a sex video. Yes I've seen a clip of it, when it first went viral on the internet like so many others. I'm not passing judgement on her, she is attractive, but her private business out for the public to view, diminished some class. The real issue is how it is going to affect her young daughter.
We are free to choose what we want to do but not free from the consequences of that choice.
The bible says in I Corinthians 6:12, "Everything is permissible me, but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me, but I will not be mastered by anything."
Poetic Thought:
The sweetest is that pink cookie,
All star in the game far from a rookie,
Addictive adrenaline rush,
The feeling of an orgasm as it bust,
Penetrate deep, intercourse is next,
Society with no restraint being a slave to sex. ~ JD
There is no secret most of us have engaged in sex at some point in our lives from adolescence to adulthood. You are entitled to your opinion, but I feel it should stay a private encounter. Be wise and either practice safe sex with a condom or abstain , or risk losing the game in this season of sex! Until next time, class dismiss!!!
No longer is it sacred between a man and woman or husband and wife, but to whomever chooses and to whoever they choose it with, regardless of age or gender.
Sex is a free will choice whether it's in the confinement of marriage or an adult engaging in it outside of marriage. Lets be honest sex feels good, men we like it and women like it too. Some people desire for sex is higher than the next individual, and there is nothing wrong with either person. A high libido shouldn't mean a low morality when it comes to sex. An example of this would be porn. A well known reality star off a show that I watch decided to do a sex video. Yes I've seen a clip of it, when it first went viral on the internet like so many others. I'm not passing judgement on her, she is attractive, but her private business out for the public to view, diminished some class. The real issue is how it is going to affect her young daughter.
We are free to choose what we want to do but not free from the consequences of that choice.
The bible says in I Corinthians 6:12, "Everything is permissible me, but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me, but I will not be mastered by anything."
Poetic Thought:
The sweetest is that pink cookie,
All star in the game far from a rookie,
Addictive adrenaline rush,
The feeling of an orgasm as it bust,
Penetrate deep, intercourse is next,
Society with no restraint being a slave to sex. ~ JD
There is no secret most of us have engaged in sex at some point in our lives from adolescence to adulthood. You are entitled to your opinion, but I feel it should stay a private encounter. Be wise and either practice safe sex with a condom or abstain , or risk losing the game in this season of sex! Until next time, class dismiss!!!
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
TRUST
Trust is something that takes almost a lifetime to gain but only a short time to lose. It is the glue that binds relationships between men and women and all people in general.
If there is no trust between two individuals more likely than not the relationship will be broken. It is human nature to feel close to another person if you are able to trust them. This applies to family, friends, coworkers, or anyone you are willing to trust.
I have experienced in my own life trust being broken in my family and personal relationships. In my opinion trust goes hand in hand with respect. When it is gone, respect begins to evaporate as well.
Think back over your life when someone lost trust in you or you lost trust in someone, it wasn't a very good feeling. It quite possibly affected your emotions in a negative way and your perception of the individual changed or theirs changed about you.
The bible says in Psalm 118:8, "It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man."
Poetic Thought:
Have direction either go left or stay right,
Collaborate with your attributes or let insecurities cause a fight,
Everyday is new mercy, a gift from the creator,
Life is like the candy, things happen now, some later,
Be filled with love so much you could bust,
When everything fails seek God because in him you can always trust! ~ JD
One of my favorite gangster movies is New Jack City. The main character Nino Brown was played by legendary actor Wesley Snipes and his right hand man G Money played by great actor Allen Payne. A lot happened throughout their reign over the dope game in New York. But once the heat by the authorities got on them tough, their drug empire became infiltrated and crumbled. Trust between them evaporated and Nino end up killing G Money.
Trust is a rare commodity that is in high demand in today's society. My acronym for TRUST is
The Real Understanding Shines Through! Until next time, class dismiss!!!
If there is no trust between two individuals more likely than not the relationship will be broken. It is human nature to feel close to another person if you are able to trust them. This applies to family, friends, coworkers, or anyone you are willing to trust.
I have experienced in my own life trust being broken in my family and personal relationships. In my opinion trust goes hand in hand with respect. When it is gone, respect begins to evaporate as well.
Think back over your life when someone lost trust in you or you lost trust in someone, it wasn't a very good feeling. It quite possibly affected your emotions in a negative way and your perception of the individual changed or theirs changed about you.
The bible says in Psalm 118:8, "It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man."
Poetic Thought:
Have direction either go left or stay right,
Collaborate with your attributes or let insecurities cause a fight,
Everyday is new mercy, a gift from the creator,
Life is like the candy, things happen now, some later,
Be filled with love so much you could bust,
When everything fails seek God because in him you can always trust! ~ JD
One of my favorite gangster movies is New Jack City. The main character Nino Brown was played by legendary actor Wesley Snipes and his right hand man G Money played by great actor Allen Payne. A lot happened throughout their reign over the dope game in New York. But once the heat by the authorities got on them tough, their drug empire became infiltrated and crumbled. Trust between them evaporated and Nino end up killing G Money.
Trust is a rare commodity that is in high demand in today's society. My acronym for TRUST is
The Real Understanding Shines Through! Until next time, class dismiss!!!
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